Judging myself and others…how can we let go of it?

This week has been both inspiring and painful for me as I have focused on being more aware of how and when I judge myself and others.

I have felt pain as I have recognized how often I do this.  Pain as my 12-year-old daughter shared her feelings around being judged by the world, and pain on how the world has trained us to judge/compare ourselves and others.

I have been inspired by the realization that this trend of judgement can be changed.  I have been inspired to be more aware of my judgements and feel a renewed desire and motivation to stop this trend in my life.

The clip below gave me a perfect opportunity to put this renewed desire into action.  When I saw the beginning, I found myself passing judgment on this man…but then I recognized it, let that judgment go, and really paid attention to what he was saying and the energy and passion he had.  In the end, I was inspired by this man and the message he shared.

“Live in the moment, don’t get old, don’t judge people, because you can’t be free if you judge people.”   “Love now, create, inspire.”

I hope that all of us can learn to be more aware of our judgments.  By being more aware, we will be able to make a conscious choice on what we  want to do about it.

How have you been able to lower the amount of judgement you place on yourself and others?  I would love to hear what is working for you.

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Does judging prohibit the truth to unfold?

I have learned the hard way to mind my business, without judging who people are and what they do. I am more troubled by the lack of space being provided for the truth to unfold. Humans cannot seem to wait for or honor the truth. Instead, we make it up based on who we believe people should or should not be.”  – Iyanla Vanzant

 

Lack of Judging

This week’s thoughts will be focused on the following principle:

Our level of true awareness is directly related to our lack of Judging

I am excited to study and learn more about this principle this week and look forward to your thoughts as well.

“The wise do not buy into other people’s perceptions of who they are and what they are capable of. Instead, they bypass a person’s public persona and see who they are in their highest expression. When you see actions taken with integrity, instead of words only, you will then know a soul’s worth.” ― Shannon L. Alder

4 lessons I have learned about opportunities

This has been another inspiring week of learning for me.  I appreciate all of the thoughts that others have shared on this topic as well.

Here are the 4 main things that have stuck out for me as I have studied the principle of Life offers neither problems nor challenges, only opportunities

  1. We must look for the opportunity in every difficulty instead of being paralyzed at the thought of the difficulty in every opportunity
  2. Opportunities do require attention and work…and are sometimes hard.  It has been my experience however, that these “hard” opportunities provide the greatest lessons and rewards. 
  3. We must pay attention to the opportunity in EVERY situation.  
  4. We can truly create opportunities out of each and every situation we are presented with. By doing this problems and challenges truly leave us and we create a world of limitless opportunities.

I have also studied examples of people taking an assumed or perceived challenge and turning it into an opportunity.  This video is a great example of making an opportunity out of life.

How has this principle assisted you in your life?  

Are opportunities sometimes difficult to recognize?

“Opportunity is often difficult to recognize; we usually expect it to beckon us with beepers and billboards.” – William Arthur Ward

This quote is so true.  We often miss opportunities because we are expecting a big notification to say “THIS IS AN OPPORTUNITY TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT”.  

Our goal is to pay attention to the opportunity in EVERY situation.  

Focusing on difficulties is paralyzing…how do we change this?

“We must look for the opportunity in every difficulty instead of being paralyzed at the thought of the difficulty in every opportunity.” – Walter E. Cole

How often to we see a difficult situation, or a difficult conversation, or a difficult relationship, and do NOTHING because we are so focused on the challenge of this situation?   

What would happen if we truly put this thought into practice and focused on finding the opportunity in these perceived  “difficulties”? 

After all, Life offers neither problems nor challenges, only opportunities

Why do we miss opportunities?

“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work” – Thomas Edison

What a true statement.  How often do we look for the big break, the perfect job offer, or the perfect client, and miss the opportunity that is staring us in the face because it seems like too much work.  

Opportunities do require attention and work…and are sometimes hard.  It has been my experience however, that these “hard” opportunities provide the greatest lessons and rewards. 

After all…”The hard is what makes it great”