This is a great question and one that I have asked a number of times in my life.  As I am facing the next opportunity in my life, the quotes below have assisted me in changing my focus from asking “why” to asking something so much more powerful.  Hope you enjoy

“Why?” is the most useless question in the universe.
The only question with any meaning is “What?”
Asking “Why is this happening?” can only dis-empower you.
Asking “What do I want to make of this?” does exactly the opposite.
– Neale Donald Walsch

“The less I take the difficulties of my life as personal affront,
and the more I use them as an opportunity to learn and grow…
the easier I sleep at night.” – Mary Anne Radmacher