Why You Should Avoid Making New Year’s Resolutions

I love the thoughts from this post!

How often do we set goals based on “fear”? I know that I have been guilty of this in the past.

My favorite part of this post is:

“Because if they were ready to make a real life change, one in which they’ve mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically determined there is no alternative than living the life they want on their terms. If they’d visualized themselves living this life to the point they can smell, hear, taste and feel what it would be like to live this way. If they’d written their plan and posted it for all to see while making a declaration that they will achieve this life. If they’d burned the boats and took one immediate step to their goal’s fulfillment, then they wouldn’t have voluntarily waited until January 1 to begin.”

I have always set new years resolutions, and I have set them out of fear in the past.  Over the last few years I have taken the approach that is outlined in this post and have found a tremendous difference in sustaining and achieving the goals I set for myself.

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Hello all. Following my first extended vacation following 19 years of post-college work, I’m back with a best life practice that couldn’t be more applicable.

Now that 2015 is upon us, you may have decided to partake in one of society’s oldest and most fruitless endeavors – New Year’s resolutions.

“I’m going to get in the gym!”

“I’m going to read more books!”

“I’m going to stop smoking/drinking!”

Not to sound like Ebenezer Scrooge, but I say bah humbug to all of it.

As we’ve discussed, deciding to make a real life change takes more than just reacting to an emotional impulse such as guilt. And that’s far too often exactly what a New Year’s resolution is.

We incur a sense of guilt over partaking in an unhealthy lifestyle – whether it’s eating, exercising, our relationships, our personal development …

And that’s why we view January 1 as such an optimal…

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Lessons from Abraham Lincoln….The power of attitude!!!

It has been another great week of quotes and comments around the topic:  “How does our attitude reflect who we are?”

There are so many stories of people who chose to define who they were, instead of letting life define it for them.  This clip shares the story of one of these people.

Each one of us has the opportunity to choose how we live.  We can either let life get the best of us, or make a conscious choice to control the one thing that no one can ever take away from us…the ability to choose how we respond.

We all get to choose what our “attitude” will be.  What a great responsibility.

What will your attitude be?    

Best Practice to Live By #8

This post falls in line with my thoughts for this week about Positive Action. I wanted to share this with everyone. I particularly love the point “You are the writer of your life book. If you don’t like it, write a new chapter“. Thanks for the great thought Chris!!!

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When life's rapids impede your progress, will you have a paddle ready to navigate them? When life’s rapids impede your progress, will you have a paddle ready to navigate them?

I believe there are two distinct categories into which we fit:

  • Those who believe in fate

and

  • Those who make their own fate

Which one are you? Because it makes an enormous difference in your life.

Are you reactionary or proactive when it comes to your future? Do you find yourself battling crisis from a defensive or offensive position? Do you lead your future or does it lead you?

For those who believe in fate, life is like sitting in a boat with no oars. You’re left with little control, going where the current takes you.

For those who make their own fate, you have a much better opportunity to be prepared – like sitting in that same boat with oars to direct it where to go.

And that brings us to today’s best life…

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Best Practice to Live By #6

I love the principle of this “best life practice” – Take the first step in establishing the tone of your relationships. wanted to share with everyone

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Yes, it's a shameless way to entice additional readership, but come on. Is there any way you can deny the power a smile has on your outlook? Sure, it’s a shameless way to entice additional readership, but come on. Is there any way you can deny the power a smile has on your outlook?

A friend of mine told me that someone he knows (we’ll call him Steve) had been out of work for more than a year, despite his best efforts to find employment and a dedicated work history within middle management for a national organization. Steve’s story was one that’s been played millions of times:

  • Corporate downsizing leads to those with higher salaries being RIFfed (Reduction In Force).
  • Financial constraints and guilty feelings over failure to support a family lead to increased stress, tension and arguing.
  • Frustration mounts as efforts to find employment – even through entry-level positions – prove unsuccessful due to hiring freezes or organizational knowledge that the candidate is far too qualified for the position and will leave once offered a more suitable job.
  • Bills…

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